INTERRACIAL: Marriage Happiness Within Interfaith, Inter Racial Couple and Weddings Planning

INTERRACIAL: Marriage Happiness Within Interfaith, Inter Racial Couple and Weddings Planning

When planning an interracial wedding, many details must be accounted for, but the couple should not lose sight of the big picture. A multicultural wedding can be very frustrating to plan because of the immense amount of detail and compromise that must be considered. The big picture entails the multicultural family. While weddings are stressful enough, the couple should also prepare themselves for the intercultural and inter faith issues they themselves must encounter as well as those they will face when planning for children. Inter faith weddings can be planned in one of two ways, either compromise by combining the traditions from both cultures, or have two completely separate weddings. When it comes to planning for daily life, things are not so simple. But donít get discouraged, there are many ways to prepare for the challenges of interfaith, inter cultural and inter racial relationships.

To start off, we begin with something that bothers most people, attempts to convert your beliefs. Most people experience discomfort when somebody tries to convince them that they are practicing the wrong religion, or are practicing it in the wrong way. So do not do it to your spouse. Unless your partner wants to convert, do not try to pressure them, because it will only create conflict. Instead, the couple should try choosing a religion that suits them both, or they could worship separately. Discussing how you and your family will worship prior to marriage and having children will help to get the issues resolved before the times comes when they could cause serious trouble. Decisions concerning their faith, such as education (e.g. Sunday school) and religious stages (e.g. Baptisms) should be determined before the children are forced to do it themselves.

Another important tip is to talk about the common features of one anotherís faith and cultural traditions. It wonít do any good to ignore the fact that there are differences, so talk about those too. There is no point in pretending that there arenít any hurdles in a multicultural relationship. So rather than assume that you know everything about one anotherís culture, become aware of the similarities between the two religions and cultures. This will facilitate the selection of compromises that will work. Making time to learn about each otherís culture and background also demonstrates intimacy within the relationship and shows a willingness to accept differences.

Lastly, have a sense of humor! Religion, culture and ethnicity are not all serious matters. Differences can be funny and sometimes the best way to lighten up a sensitive or potentially hostile situation is to laugh it off. Interfaith, inter culture and inter race marriages can work, but they need do require some effort. Do not believe that love will conquer all problems.